She Already Knows (And So Do All Her Friends)

This is the first of my "dating posts." I considered carefully whether to include them in this blog (as opposed to my other, lighter blog) but decided it is, for me anyway, a spiritual issue. I'm going to try to post one a week, in addition to any regularly scheduled posts. Enjoy.



She Already Knows (And So Do All Her Friends)



You have a friend, probably a good friend, who is head over heals in love with (or infatuated with) a particular girl. And even if you didn't know him, it'd be fairly obvious. He makes up excuses to be around her, does ridiculous things to get her attention, and becomes absolutely tongue-tied when he finally gets a chance to speak to her.



Somehow, out of all the women he knows, she's the only one that got a birthday present/card. He would leave the emergency room to help her move, drive to another state to be "there for her" when she mightcouldpossibly have flunked a midterm, and get out of line for Star Wars tickets if she wanted to go have coffee.



And he thinks she's an absolute idiot.



He is hiding safely behind the knowledge that she couldn't possibly know how he feels, since he Hasn't Told Her Yet. Dude? She knows. I know you're scared to tell her, but she already knows. I know you're waiting for the right time to tell her, but she already knows. I know you don't want you're friendship to change, but she already knows.



So the question is - how much does he really care about this girl?



Because if she already knows and isn't into him, he's making her uncomfortable. Or if she already knows and is into him, he's wasting her time while she waits for him to ask her out. Neither of those scenarios have her best interest at heart, do they? It comes down to a question of what he wants (to keep putting it off) versus what she wants (for him to stop being so creepy or just ask her out).



I know you're scared - it's okay.



She already knows.



And so do all her friends.